Friday, April 6, 2012

{A Letter To My 19-Year Old Self}

The other day I was listening to 103.3. I occasionally often listen to 103.3. I'm a girl of variety, what can I say? Anyway, one of the DJ's had mentioned how Oprah had written a letter to her 19-year old self. I loved this idea.

We've all done things that we wish we could go back and change, or rather there were things that we didn't do, that we wish we could go back and change. We all ask ourselves the "what if" question, don't we? Or am I alone? For the sake of this post I'm going to assume that we all do ask the, "what if" question.

There was this episode of Grey's Anatomy this season that was super strange and kind of cheesy but in the end I loved it. To sum it up everyone's role was different on the show. Meredith was engaged to Karev. Derek is married to Addison and they're expecting, but it's actually Mark's baby. Karev cheats on Meredith with April. SO end the end this happens...

Meredith and Derek wind up together anyway, just like she says at the end of the clip, "As if it were meant to be..."

The only reason why I'm using this clip is because I believe that everything happens for a reason. I love the woman I've become. I love the man I married more than anything in the world. I have a support system like none other. Life has it's ups and downs, but for the most part, life is pretty stinkin' good. I'm a very lucky gal, and I'd like to think that these things were meant to be. So as I give advice to my 19-year old self it's not to change the life that I have, but to maybe make the journey just a little bit easier. To give myself a little more wisdom at 19. Who knows, maybe even if I had done things a little different, I might have still ended up with Kory, because it was meant to be!

I know 19 was only a little over 5 years ago, but a lot can happen in that amount of time. Here goes...

Dear Mel(get used to Mel because over time people will call you that more and more),

You are a strong and independent woman, you always have been and always will be, use that to your advantage. Get out of Independence, go to a college somewhere new and fun. A place where you can meet new people and experience things that you never have before. Experience all this world has to offer, ditch the idea of having a boyfriend and focus on you. Work on figuring out who you are alone and what you really want in life. Don't be so shy, stop waiting for people to approach you first. If you recognize someone, say hello, reintroduce yourself if you have to. Other people are just as nervous or intimidated as you are.
Don't be so concerned with what other people think of you. Be fun and quirky like you are in private, they'll respect you more. Don't worry about having the nicest clothes or the nicest car, student loans will catch up with you eventually, and trust me-they're a bummer.
There is no timeline. Do things in the order that you choose, do not fall into the pressure of what and when society says you should do things. Only you can make you happy, so do what you feel when you feel.
Spend time with your bro. He's pretty cool, you're cooler, but that's to be expected. And don't work so much, enjoy your young college days. Working two jobs is for the birds!
Enjoy this life to the fullest! Explore, discover and soak it all up...

Your 24, almost antique-year old self

[Me circa 2007, when I was 19]

What advice would you give to yourself at 19? Are there things you would change? Is there something that you didn't do, that you wish you had?

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