Wednesday, September 5, 2012

GUEST POST:

Hi all, my name is Natalie and I’m a friend of Melissa and Kory’s.  A few weeks back Mel had asked me to do a guest post for her.  At first I was so excited, and then it turned to “What the heck do I write about?” Well, I decided to write about the thing I love the most, my family.

Being a parent comes with MANY up and downs.  I assume everyone is aware of this.  I’m sure for every parent there is that ONE thing that is the hardest thing they have encountered during their time as a parent.  For me, it’s deciding whether or not to have ANOTHER child.  This is a battle for me.  As soon as my son, Christian, was born the questions started flowing. One of the first questions I was asked, so when are you having another?  Are you kidding me?  He’s only 2 hours old. HA!

You see, I’m an only child.  And so is my husband.  When I was a kid I thought being an only child was the WORST thing to ever happen to me.  I told my mother MANY times, I will NEVER do this to my children.  I was a late in life baby; my mom was 33 and my dad 36 when I was born. Which now-a-days is pretty normal, nevertheless my parents decided to stick with just one.  Don’t get me wrong being an only child did have its advantages; I got a car for my 16th birthday and one for graduation, I had anything that a child would ever have needed or wanted except one thing, a sibling.

My husband and I go back and forth with whether or not we even wanted another child.  When people ask, which they still do, we are always giving a different answer; no more, 1 more, we will talk about it in a few years.  Neither my husband nor I are close with our extended family, but extremely close with our parents.  My husband’s father died when he was very young, leaving him to be very close with his mother.  My father died 10 days after my 21st birthday.  My mother and I have become very close due to my dad’s passing.  Death is very much present in my life. Go ahead and call me morbid.  I’m ALWAYS dreaming of death or running into Christian’s bedroom worried about something happening in the night.  So I think, when my mother and mother-in-law pass, it will just be us 3, then MANY, MANY years from now when my husband and I go, it just leaves Christian all by himself. Sure he might have his own family by then, but you just never know. The thought of leaving my son alone makes me think; maybe we should have at least ONE more child.  Or, just leave the thought alone and let whatever happens, happen...
Thanks for stopping by to see my post!
-Natalie

Are you guys with Nat? Constantly debating whether or not to take on the challenge of having another child? Let us know how you feel. I'll be back tomorrow with my own battle in the decision of when to take on that first child.


3 comments:

  1. This is a wonderful post, Natalie. Thank you so much for sharing it with us, here on Love Like Johnny and June!

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  2. Chad and I always thought we would have more than 1 kid.....aleast 2, if not 3! Our Daugher, who turns 3 in 21 days is the PERFECT child. Never went though those terrible two's, super sweet and kind to others. I worried about having another child. What if that child was a monster and the complete oposite of Madison?!?! And I had the same thoughts you did about her not having someone to grow up with. Well we now have our son Chase (2 months). Madison adores him and it just feels right having 2 now. Maybe down the road when Madison is in Kindergarden we will have 1 more, but for now, 2 is good! Oh, and I always worried about if it would be crazy hard going from 1 child to 2...but it's really pretty easy once you get a schedule down. Oh course, the desison on how many kids to have is completely up to the parents. My good friend is completely content on just having one and I think that is great too. As for Melissa....I can't wait for you and Kory to have a little one. I know you will be a great mom and the happiness that child will bring you is un-imagiable!

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  3. Heyy, thanks for your feedback. That was also a huge concern of mine. My son is amazing. Slept through the night at 6 weeks old and sleeps until 9 on weekends. He is so kind and just wants to give hugs and kisses. And he ALWAYS says Thank you. I have heard many times, "If you would have had your 2nd child 1st you would never want another" It’s good to hear that it isn't true to everyone. :)

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