It's incredible what just a few months can do for life with a baby. If I had seen my four-month-momma-self just a couple of months ago, I wouldn't have believed it. The baby is in bed, laundry is going, the house has been picked up(sort of) and I'm blogging. Sometimes I even get a little crazy and work on my scrapbook. AND, earlier, Henry played on his mat while I cleaned the kitchen and got our bags ready for tomorrow. All of this after working and a Target trip. WHO ARE WE!? Several weeks ago there was literally a point where I thought life would never be the same. Technically life never will be the same. Our lives revolve around this tiny human now, but you do (somewhat) get back to normalcy. You eventually learn how to be on time, how to get out of the house and how to not stress during every outing with your babe. Beautiful weather helps, too. Being able to take my babe outside has been the most wonderful blessing ever.
Henry has accomplished a lot in the last four months. We're proud of the transitions we've been able to make so far, but I know there's a long road ahead of us. While we wait for the next wave of transitions, here are a few of the things I've noted over the last few months. Some are silly and some probably only pertain to us, but oh well. :)
To start, everyone raves about rockers for the nursery. I'm all for a rocker, but the key is to get a reclining rocker. Then everyone wins. It's impossible to get good, comfortable sleep while you're upright. We will without a doubt get a reclining rocker next time.
On the subject of sleep, not all babies go down for naps on their own. Some need a little coaxing. You may need to swaddle, rock, or even sing your little one to sleep. One day it could take four minutes to get your babe to sleep and the next day you may have to rock that baby for thirty+ minutes. If you have a little one that naps easily, consider yourself very lucky. :)
Singing. I'm terrible at. It's torture for my own ears to listen to, but somehow Henry finds it incredibly soothing. Babies love the sound of mommas voice. Even if you don't sing, you should try it. It's good for the momma soul, too.
Pacifiers, I wish there wasn't so much debate over whether to use them right away if you're breastfeeding. In our case Henry was always a wonderful nurser, so I really wish I hadn't been so stressed about not giving him one. I really think It would have been a great soother for him. Now he enjoys his two little fingers, instead. I'm not complaining though, once less thing to wean him from and the fingers are easier to put back in if they fall out. ;)
Don't feel pressured to do things the way other people think you should. Don't feel bad if your baby still sleeps with you. Or on the other hand, if you're like us, don't feel bad that your baby has been in his own room since the early weeks. If you can't or don't want to breastfeed, then don't. If you tried, but it was hard or overwhelming, don't beat yourself up over it. If you decide to go the formula route, don't let people give you the stink eye over it. If you have to go back to work, don't let people make you feel like you don't want to be at home taking care of your baby. Or vise versa, if you're a SAHM, don't let people shrug you off like you're not doing something important all day long, because you are!
Never compare yourself to other moms and never compare your baby to other babies. We all have our own timeline for things, especially babies. They'll do what they want when they're ready. It's easy to wonder if you're doing everything that you can to help your babe develop and grow, but you are, just by caring and being the great mom that you are!
Always, always do what is best for you and your family. That is the best thing you can do. Stress, tension and exhaustion are not worth the battles. Keep your home happy and thriving by doing YOU.
This is what I get to wake up to. :) Side note: when he was put to bed, his head was exactly opposite of where it is in this photo. We have a squirmer.