Wednesday, January 11, 2017

{Working On Minimizing}

So, I watched Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things.

And let me just start by saying excusing me for being all over the place and bouncing around. It's hard to put all of my thoughts on paper in text.

Lately I've had so many things on my plate and so much that I want to accomplish. Some are big, some are small. Some have to do with finances, some have to do with being a mother and a partner, some just have to do with decluttering my life. Materialistically and mentally. 

Currently in my world, it feels like I have so little, but have so much at the same time.

I have the extremely important things. Family. Support. Confidence. A roof over my head. A vehicle to get my family from place to place and to and from work. And much more. Honestly, I don't take for granted how blessed I am. 

And then there's the debt. And the stuff. SO.MUCH.STUFF. The stuff that *partly* got me in debt. (I didn't do it all on my own, but that's not the point lol) The stuff that I always think I "need."

Watching the documentary, along with my general thought process lately just sealed the deal for me. I keep learning more and more about myself and ways to improve my style of living and to help put me on the path to financial freedom. 

What needs to happen?

Stuff needs to go. I need to purge...more that is. I've already gotten rid of so much. I want to continue selling gently used items that we're no longer using- i.e. Henry's clothes, Luce's soon and anything else that someone else might find value in that we're no longer using. I'll also continue donating our gently used items. Last week I took EIGHT bags to Goodwill.

I want to stop buying things with the intention of "impressing others," or keeping up with others. Does Henry dress nice? Sure. Does my thought process need to involve a potential Instagram photo? Absolutely not. I originally couldn't wait to find the perfect coming home outfit for Luce. The perfect photo op. WHY? Someone please tell me why?

Watching the documentary makes me want to get rid of all social media, get rid of my phone plan, and buy a phone plan that only allows calls and texts. That way I'm not constantly scrolling. Not constantly looking at Instagram shops. Constantly seeing others with new, "hot" items. I want to get back to me and wanting the things that I want and need for my family. I don't want to want things that other people have or want me to have.

I feel like I'm rambling and probably not making much sense. Trust me, not everything I buy is because of someone else, not even close really, but there is definitely times when I'm more tempted because of something I saw on someone's feed. Or I think I'm supposed to have certain things because that's what society says. A big house, a big diamond ring, a fancy car, etc.

Will I stop buying things that I absolutely love and that I'm drawn to? Not every time. Will I quit all social media? Probably not anytime soon or all at once. Baby steps.

What I really want to do is declutter. I want to sell or donate anything that doesn't add value to my life. I want to be conscious and thorough about every future purchase I make. I want to focus on setting goals to pay off debt and put aside money. I want to focus on the things that matter most. Time with family. Raising my babies. Eating dinner at the table together. Making memories and taking adventures together. I don't want my children to remember me by the "things" I gave them. I want them to remember eating bubble bread on Christmas morning every year, going on summer vacation (even if it's a staycation), going to the pumpkin patch to pick out pumpkins and everything else that we do as a family.

From now on I plan to diligently try to focus my spending and time on things that matter. 
xx,
Melissa Loren


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